Love for David is something that he does not want to get too dark or heavy; it should have just enough shade to keep him interested without feeling he has to probe and plumb the depths. However, carrying this lightness too far may well attract some kind of emotional crisis and confrontation, because an equal blending of the light and the heavy, the breezy and the serious, is what makes the difference between real love and mere Fancy.

...a cool wit and youthful charm.
...a wide range of contacts which he seems to cultivate with ease.
...a flirtatiousness that is balanced so well between sheer playfulness and really meaning it that it borders on being an art form.

...an icy breeze that probably originates from some deep inner doubt about his worth and attractiveness.
...a butterfly-like quality that commits to no-one in particular.
...a fickleness that is addicted to teasing and avoiding real intimacy.

...a clever mind and a way with words.
...someone who will keep the flame of love alive and interesting with the occasionally unexpected breeze - but no tornadoes!
...plenty of variety, especially where sex is concerned.

...a lack of mental and verbal sparkle.
...anything that smacks of settling down into some well-worn rut as the 'comfortable' couple.
...sex or romance that has no curiosity for what has not yet been tried.

...it is because no-one can pin him down. Yet because of his reluctance to get heavily involved, this may suit him, at least some of the time. Another reason could be that David has not been developing or exercising his natural wit and cheeky charm enough to attract a likely mate.

As ever with David there are two sides or ways of looking at the situation, meaning that David is either being too light or not light enough. If David feels alone within a relationship, as distinct from actually being on his own, it is very likely because he is not allowing into discussion a certain issue he is uncomfortable with - and so no other points of contact can be made until this one is.

David has the primary need to be useful to or his mate or intended, or simply needed by them, but this is possibly created by ingrained fears of rejection if he doesn't measure up.
David has practical instincts giving rise to reliability and efficiency, but this can be a compensation for an ingrained sense of emotional inadequacy.
David is naturally inclined to being serious and hard-working, but can lean towards being joyless or emotionally absent.

...for his partner or intended with a cautiousness of approach which proves to be a sign of staunch commitment when he has at last decided.
...by being able to sort out his opposite number's difficulties in a very objective and business-like fashion.
...with surprising passion when trust is at last won and familiarity established.

...to opportunities for emotional experience with severe distrust, for fear of being hurt or inflicting it.
...to his significant other in a reserved and matter-of-fact manner when really sentiment and sympathy are needed.
...to any sign of a significant other's interest waning by going very cold or merely dutiful.

...someone who is professional or worldly, and rather conservative in at least one way.
...anyone who can lend some warmth to his sometimes rather chilly inner state.
...relationships where he can maintain some emotional control and thereby establish some stability and order which would be reassuring to himself first, then to his mate.

...a relationship with a person who withholds something or fails to deliver in some way, mirroring a childhood pattern of his of not feeling deserving of love.
...a relationship where he feels dull and lacking in spontaneity in comparison to his partner, while overlooking his priceless reliability.
...boring or dead-end relationships because he finds it hard to allow in a new or random element that could spice things up because that would also be seen as threatening.

But it is through these situations that David develops emotionally.

...it is either because it is the best or only way that he is able to control his emotional life, or, he has become isolated within a relationship – which certainly makes him feel alone.

But it is that need to control and not let emotions take their course which is behind both of these possibilities. And behind this is the likelihood that as a child David was never recognized as a as a child, as someone with feelings.

Being left to become an adult too soon made him feel alone, but he accepted it at the time. Now, when David is again alone, it is telling him not to be emotionally short-changed anymore.

Now he must dispel that cloud that hangs around inside of him, come out of the shadow it casts, and be a second-class emotional citizen no longer. David will probably always be one of life's survivors and supporters, but that does not mean to say that he has practically to prove that he is worth something in order to be loved and accepted.

Such is a lie and a sin against human feelings and the child within, and must be resisted at all costs as David claims his soul's due. Yes, David has a soul that must be recognized and appreciated for what it is.

Effectiveness for David is created or maintained through following his dreams and understanding the 'laws' that govern them. This means to say that David's desires spring from his psyche or imagination more than from his body, and so he tends to find satisfaction through images and suggestion, like in photography and dance, for example. Without recognizing this subtlety of his desire nature, frustration, abuse and distress can turn into a peculiarly fragile form of Anger.

...a subtle mixture of gentleness and drive, sexuality and mysteriousness – charisma, in fact.
...an ability to get under another's skin with some indefinable quality of his being.
...artistic or healing talent. Dancing possibly.

...a volatile and tentative approach which smacks of having something to hide and of not being willing or able to follow through.
...a seductiveness or seducibility that is treacherous because it is misguided.
...confusion over how to (sexually) express himself.

...exotic and or mysterious situations and people.
...the dance of life – and those that tend to lead him a dance, because, despite common sense, that is what turns him on.
...environments and types that are quiet, quaint, peaceful, inspiring or subtly healing.

...brash or crude people.
...anything that is too simplistic in that it follows a path so logical and straight as to be a total turn-off.
...harsh, violent, noisy places where there is no sense of the fragility and subtlety of his sensitivity.

...it is because he has never been definite enough about being with someone - in particular or in general. Alternatively, or additionally, it can be quite difficult for the other person to determine quite where it is David is coming from, and what it is he really wants, especially in the sexual sense.

Because of all this, David never quite manages to focus himself and his energies, and this in turn leads to the other person not being able to focus upon him – which means that he winds up alone.

So it is not because David is undesirable – far from it – but because maybe he thinks he is too strange for anyone to accept all of him. And so he makes sure no-one does see all of him, which eventually means the other person won't see him at all.

When David allows himself to be led by something deep within his soul or imagination, rather than by some misguided notion of what is acceptable or fashionable, then the other person will follow.

David wins by generously expressing his physicality and sensuality, but loses when this descends into possessiveness and lust instead of love.
David wins by radiating an earthy stability, but loses if this becomes a lethargy born of a resistance to change.
David wins by being the reliable provider, but loses when he is only hedonistic or materialistic.

...his aura of unruffled steadiness that gives his partner or intended a sense of something permanent which they can build and rely upon.
...a sense of there being plenty of time to enjoy and accomplish things.
...a productiveness that is very reassuring and gives substance to the notion that life is basically good.

...with an inability to grasp or accept abstract ideas or spiritual concepts that he perceives as having no real value.
...with a sluggishness that is boring and a turn-off.
...by having many possessions but not appreciating the value of the intangibles of life.

...overemphasizing his sense of caution, which is really just a reluctance to change born of a fear of the unpredictable.
...expressing only a desire for physical gratification at the expense of the enduring bond that he and the other person really want.
...pretending to show and interest in the spiritual or philosophical side of life when really he is merely playing lip service to these aspects of existence in order to satisfy more basic desires.

...in the face of what appears to be his partner or intended threatening his sense of security.
...when feeling in danger of losing his mate on a physical level - simply because that is nearly all he has focused upon.
...when made uncomfortably aware by a significant other that he is being a wolf in sheep's clothing.

But sincerely admitting to any or all of these, commands or regains respect for him from the other person, and can dramatically improve the relationship itself.

...it is most probably because he has to find pastures new - even though it might feel that he has been put out to grass! But the reason behind this is only too down to earth: life with the other person has become boring to the point of being impossible.

David will have to accept that in some way he has contributed to that boredom – possibly because he thought the other person was a safe bet in the first place. Or the other person thought David was.

Whatever the case, the salutary lesson is that a relationship without some pattern of growth and development is doomed to deadlock. And we are talking growth and development on a spiritual or emotional level here, not just a physical or material one.

The dynamics of relationship force us to confront our fears and shortcomings, which David can be averse to doing. And so finding himself out of a relationship - or never having entered one at all - is owing to David's stubborn resistance to this kind of change.

...having to be practical and making sense, and so he approaches matters concerning his mate or intended equipped with the ability to create and maintain material stability or physical satisfaction.
...patiently and consistently considering what he sees as all the relevant details until a realistic approach and enduring solution is reached.
...nothing being worth getting too upset about.

...deeper emotional issues that require a more psychologically or spiritually informed awareness, giving rise to his partner or intended feeling blocked or misunderstood.
...that some issues need dealing with spontaneously or swiftly, otherwise matters are in danger of deteriorating or moving on, with David missing his opportunity.
...what is bothering his mate or intended.

And these are reasons why David can fail to communicate.

David has the goodness to put his cards on the table, but he should guard against being foolish or naive.
David has the morality to honour his significant other's beliefs, yet at the same time needs to resist being intolerant when push comes to shove.
David has respect for a partner's right to assert themselves freely, yet should resist attacking or disregarding what they then say or do.

...promoting or encouraging their efforts and intentions to make something of themselves in their own right.
...championing them when they are not afraid to stand up for what they believe in.
...standing alone by his principles or taking up a leading position when the occasion demands it.

...enthusiastic about something simply because it is individualistic but does not necessarily have much going for it.
...impatient and even scathing of his mate or intended when they are not too sure of their standpoint.
...arrogant, precipitous and wasteful when the complexity of a situation calls for caution.

...that luck and faith are things that you attain through your own efforts, and that the courage of your convictions and fighting for them is what makes you and them grow stronger.
...that life looks after those that live it, who take advantage of opportunities on impulse.

...someone who believes that everything comes to him who waits, or that the meek shall inherit the Earth, or similar philosophies of passivity.

....sometimes one has to wait and take a back seat for a while; a partner or intended can show him how to spot the right moment, or how they have to.

...it is most probably because he taken his need for independence to its logical conclusion - or extreme, more like. Or, if David is in some sort of leadership position, such a place is often a lonely one to be in.

In either case, he has to weigh the advantages against the disadvantages. It could be said that his forceful beliefs eventually force him to come to some sort of philosophy of acceptance regarding the aloneness that can go with independence or leadership.

If however he finds this unacceptable, the spell of aloneness can be broken if he is prepared to share the nature of that aloneness with a significant other, someone who preferably also has some experience of being a leader or a loner themselves for then they'll properly understand David's predicament.

What all this amounts to is that surrendering the status he has as a leader also eliminates the inaccessibility of being a loner. Into the bargain both David and his mate gain a personal respect for one another, a respect that is rather like that of comrades-in-arms. Even though they may be fighting different battles, their wounds are the same.

David builds or needs to build a relationship that is mutually nurturing, yet does not foster co-dependency.
David has or needs the discipline to fulfil family and emotional responsibilities, and to avoid being emotionally distant or hard-hearted even.
David takes, or needs to take, time to establish roots of shared feelings, which will dispel the depressive moods he can be prone to.

...situations where he feels little or no sense of belonging.
...relationships where either he or his partner is very needy, clinging or pathetic in some way.
...uncomfortable set-ups owing to there being an emotional imbalance as he is forced to do all the caring.

...build a solid or inner core of emotional security and/or a material stability that is not overly dependent upon his partner.
...develop qualities such as empathy or emotional understanding.
...limit his concern for his partner by making sure that his feelings are then considered too, which would mean they first need to be identified and expressed.

...someone who is emotionally aware enough to see past his emotional defences, and then recognize and take seriously his innermost feelings and sentiments.
...someone who can control their feelings without suppressing David's or their own.
...someone who he feels nurtured by, but without being made to feel emotionally blackmailed or compromised.

...someone who gives gushing or mawkish displays of emotion.
...being mothered by his partner or intended as this would be setting him up for being emotionally controlled or compromised.
...any situation or relationship that threatens to be a repeat performance of his own family's difficulties.

...it is most probably owing to him not being willing or able to express, involve or commit himself emotionally - for one or more of the above reasons. Emotional isolation is a very necessary part of David's life pattern, because it is through this that he learns to get in touch with his often buried feelings.

He must avoid getting into either a downward spiral of self-pity on the one hand, or on the other, denying the feelings that he has, for this would prevent the possibility of new or renewed relationship.

What we fear comes upon us - so sooner or later David has to get in touch with those needs and sensibilities that have been confused by certain fears of feeling or difficulty with feeling. Then David will attract who and what he genuinely needs.

He has an inclination to keep a stiff upper lip where his feelings are concerned, but without even realizing that he is doing so. David's emotions are rather like a cushion that has been sat upon for so long it has become compressed and has forgotten how springy it was.

So he needs to go easy on himself and try to 'plump' himself up a bit with conscious acts of self-kindness and self-nurturance.

Delver or Demon

David is very much the creature of nature and the physical senses, exuding an aura of permanence and earthiness. He doesn't like to be hurried or pushed into anything unknown or too new, and is happiest when surrounded by whatever is familiar to him.

No matter how David looks, there is a tactile, even huggable, feel about him - an animal magnetism, in fact. But it is just this markedly slow and physical presence that can attracts someone who is not content to leave things as they are.

For David, a significant other is more inclined to dig beneath his placid or stubborn surface in search of the soul and passion that they detect underneath.

This ruffles David's feathers as much as it excites him - and there's the rub. It is as if he needs that a sting of stimulation to stop him from sliding into the mud of his resistance to change - and the sting that works best is sexual in nature, or more specifically one that gets him deeply and intimately involved.

But should a significant other push David too far, or excite him too much even, he digs his heels in deeper than ever.

Intensity

David is uncomfortable with feelings that are too arousing or provocative - a bit like a red rag is to a bull, one could say. His reaction to such intensity of feeling is to bear his weight down upon it, which means to flatten it with earthy logic, to simply not acknowledge it, or even see it.

But the more David denies this, his shadow, the part of him thathe feels uncomfortable with, the more he will attract what he will interpret as disruption and unnecessary emotional pain.

David's pleasure-seeking and sensual persona is bound to evoke deep passions in a significant other, so it would be wise for him to understand the secret and psychological workings of human nature for then he they wouldn't take his earthy straightforwardness unawares.

A deeply committed relationship is definitely the fodder for David, the type of partnership that can endure quite heavy conflicts or tests of fidelity. At times he may feel trapped and manipulated by such an arrangement, as if he has been bought body and soul. But this is a rich and fertile pairing, the kind that produces and provides.

Rather like a farm that is dependent upon its soil, David has to keep nurturing it, occasionally turning it over, ploughing the goodness back in to regenerate it, letting it lie fallow, etc. Indeed, the seasonal cycle of birth and rebirth, prospering and dying, epitomizes David's style of relationship.

…it is simply because he has not been prepared to accept the deep commitment and mutual possession that a suitable relationship for him demands - which would include dealing with a fear, or actual case, of betrayal.

Possibly David fears his hidden depths being plumbed, or that his partner would not like what they found beneath his attractive surface.

It is because of that surface David has no difficulty attracting a mate, but if he makes the mistake of doubting the profound value of what lies beneath it, then a relationship either won't last or materialize, or if it does it will only do so becausehis mate will be the one who has David by the nose.